PARENTAL INVOLVEMENT EXPECTATIONS:
Ten Things Kids Say They Don’t Want Parents to Do in their athletic careers.
1. Don't yell out instructions. During the game I'm trying to concentrate on what the coach says and working on what I've been practicing. It's easier for me to do my best if you save instructions and reminders for practice or just before the game.
2. Don't put down the officials. This embarrasses me and I sometimes wonder whether the official is going to be tougher on me because my parents yell.
3. Don't yell at me in public. It will just make things worse because I'll be upset, embarrassed, or worried that you're going to yell at me the next time I do something "wrong."
4. Don't yell at the coach. When you yell about who gets to play what position, it just stirs things up and takes away from the fun.
5. Don't put down my teammates. Don't make put-down remarks about any of my teammates who make mistakes. It takes away from our team spirit.
6. Don't put down the other team. When you do this you're not giving us a very good example of sportsmanship so we get mixed messages about being "good sports."
7. Don't lose your cool. I love to see you excited about the game, but there's no reason to get so upset that you lose your temper! It's our game and all the attention is supposed to be on us.
8. Don't lecture me about mistakes after the game. Those rides home in the car after the game are not a good time for lectures about how I messed up -- I already feel bad. We can talk later, but please stay calm, and don't forget to mention things I did well during the game
9. Don't forget how to laugh and have fun. Sometimes it's hard for me to relax and have fun during the game when I look over and see you so tense and worried.
10. Don't forget that it's just a game! Odds are, I'm not going to make a career out of playing sports. I know I may get upset if we lose, but I also know that I'm usually feeling better after we go get a pizza. I need to be reminded sometimes that it's just a game.
- We ask that fans do not make harassing remarks to other team's players or game officials. Of course there are going to be bad calls and cheap players, lets display good sportsmanship and focus on cheering our team on.
- Fans are asked to congratulate athletes only after the coach has dismissed the team. This also applies for signing players out to ride home with you. Please wait until the coach has dismissed the team following cool down and post game team talk. This also includes practices.
- Noticing things your player did well in a game is a great way to start a conversation post game. Players need to vent after a tough lose or a disappointing performance.... please help them through the ups and downs of the season. Please avoid negative comments towards other players as it sets a negative tone amongst players on the team.
- Please know that as coaches we are trying our best to be fair. Your player is a part of a team and is made up of many members. Although your focus might be just on your player...the coaches are focusing on the team as a whole and trying to see the big picture. We before Me.
- Positive observations, encouragement, rides to and from team practices/events, positive displays of sportsmanship, and further support that helps accomplish team goals are always appreciated!! We appreciate you making this a fun and memorable season for your player. Becoming better soccer players and helping them reach their full potential on the field and as a team is only a slice of what we are trying to accomplish. Helping your daughters develop important character traits and challenge themselves to be the best teammate and person they can be is so much more important. Only a small number of players will go on to play soccer in college but players will hopefully leave with so much more.
- Have your player teach you the rules of the game, what position your player plays, and our team strategies.
- If your player has an issue or concern...please let them discuss with coach. If you have a question or concern after your daughter has discussed with us...please contact us and we can discuss respectfully in a solution oriented manner. We do ask that you give it a 24 hour cooling down period before you email or contact coach.
- Parents need to sign out all players with the coach following all away games. If player is to ride home with someone other than parents, it needs to be pre-arranged with the Activities Director prior to game day. An email to Dave Niemi typically is suffice and he will let me know it has been approved.
- In a Nut Shell
1. Be your daughter’s best role model.
2. Be positive and encouraging towards all players.
3. Allow your daughter the opportunity to work through any disappointments with her coach.
4. Enjoy the season and your Becker Soccer family.
Ten Things Kids Say They Don’t Want Parents to Do in their athletic careers.
1. Don't yell out instructions. During the game I'm trying to concentrate on what the coach says and working on what I've been practicing. It's easier for me to do my best if you save instructions and reminders for practice or just before the game.
2. Don't put down the officials. This embarrasses me and I sometimes wonder whether the official is going to be tougher on me because my parents yell.
3. Don't yell at me in public. It will just make things worse because I'll be upset, embarrassed, or worried that you're going to yell at me the next time I do something "wrong."
4. Don't yell at the coach. When you yell about who gets to play what position, it just stirs things up and takes away from the fun.
5. Don't put down my teammates. Don't make put-down remarks about any of my teammates who make mistakes. It takes away from our team spirit.
6. Don't put down the other team. When you do this you're not giving us a very good example of sportsmanship so we get mixed messages about being "good sports."
7. Don't lose your cool. I love to see you excited about the game, but there's no reason to get so upset that you lose your temper! It's our game and all the attention is supposed to be on us.
8. Don't lecture me about mistakes after the game. Those rides home in the car after the game are not a good time for lectures about how I messed up -- I already feel bad. We can talk later, but please stay calm, and don't forget to mention things I did well during the game
9. Don't forget how to laugh and have fun. Sometimes it's hard for me to relax and have fun during the game when I look over and see you so tense and worried.
10. Don't forget that it's just a game! Odds are, I'm not going to make a career out of playing sports. I know I may get upset if we lose, but I also know that I'm usually feeling better after we go get a pizza. I need to be reminded sometimes that it's just a game.
Communication with Parents.
fb page - 2014 Becker Girls Soccer
team website - www.beckergirlssoccer.weebly.com
email - please put email on sheet so I can add you to my group list.
Ways Parents can help make the season a memorable and fun one for the players.
1. Sandbur Tailgate lunch. help organize
2. Senior Day - help organize
3. Concession stand help at sporting events
4. Fundraising for new uniforms for next year.
5. Video taping games for the team to watch and learn from.
6. End of the Year Banquet - help organize
7. Hosting a team pasta dinner